Man miffed as sister-in-law rejects handmade baby shower gift and demands pricey one

For new and expectant parents, it’s not unusual to make a registry of all the items that would help you in your journey to parenthood, which loved ones can look at for ideas before getting a gift for your baby shower.

But most parents would also understand that the list is only a guide, and those who can’t afford gifts from it – or simply don’t want to buy from it – shouldn’t feel forced to.

That hasn’t been the case with one man on Reddit though, who has been left feeling “miffed” after he spent a month knitting a blanket from scratch for his future niece, only for his brother’s wife to tell him she didn’t want it because it wasn’t from the registry.

The man explained in his post that he’s “currently broke” and when he checked the registry, all the cheaper items had already been fulfilled, which left him with items of $100 (£81) and above – which he can’t afford.

So instead, he chose to do something nice and handmake a blanket for the impending arrival, not realising that the sentimental item wouldn’t be appreciated.

He wrote: “I am currently broke right now, and my sister-in-law recently had a baby shower. It’s the first baby born to any of my siblings so it’s a big deal.

“I had money set aside, but had to use it to cover some unexpected expenses that came up with my car. By the time I got things sorted and got around to the baby shower registry, the smaller items were gone and all that was left were the big ticket ones of $100 and over, which honestly I can’t afford.

“I can knit pretty well and have a yarn stash, so in my downtime between work and general life I knitted up a baby blanket for my new niece instead. I did pick up some smaller items too, pacifiers, some of those little texture books and whatnot.”

The man said he was unable to attend the baby shower due to work commitments, but when he handed over the items to his brother and his wife the weekend after, he didn’t get the reaction he was hoping for.

And to make matters worse, he then got a phone call a few days later to ask what item he was buying from the registry, as the handmade blanket wasn’t deemed enough.

He added: “I was working a double the night of the shower so I didn’t get to go so the weekend after I swung by my brother’s place and gave the blanket and small items to them.

“My sister-in-law was peeved and gave me back the blanket for being the ‘wrong colour’. It was a deep navy blue yarn and I guess it’s a boy’s colour, or whatever. I was annoyed but one of my friends had a baby recently so I decided I’d give it to her.

“I left the smaller items and went home a little miffed. A few days pass and my brother calls and says my sister-in-law is asking what I’m planning to get them so they can start planning the nursery layout.

“I pointed out that I had already given them my gift and his wife gave it back. Basically, they said I went off the registry so they’re still expecting something from me since I’m the uncle.

“I asked about the smaller items I gave them and my brother said his wife said those didn’t count because they asked for gifts from the registry, or I could make a blanket with the right colours.

“I told my brother that I wasn’t making another blanket because between work it took me almost a month to make that blanket and I used up 90% of my infrequent downtime to make it.”

Commenters on the Reddit post were firmly on the man’s side, with many saying that the handmade item should have “meant much more” to the couple than something from the registry because it had sentimental value.

One person said: “The hand-knitted blanket should have meant much more than something generic from a list. She called you up to demand another gift, the smaller gifts ‘don’t count’, and she won’t use a blue blanket because it’s a ‘boy’ colour? What is wrong with these people? Do not get these entitled people anything more.”

While another added: “You gave a gift. They didn’t want it. Obligation and generosity on your part were met. It’s rude to hand someone their gift back. And it’s absolutely never appropriate to demand a new gift after rejecting a completely reasonable gift.”

And a third wrote: “You made them a nice gift; they should have just graciously accepted. Don’t get them anything.”